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Modesty, in my opinion, has mostly been abandoned in the world. I'm sure people would laugh at my views, but when it comes to modesty, I'm kinda old school. For instance, I hate walking past a Victoria's Secret in the mall. I hate the posters they put in the windows. Firstly, I don't want to see them b/c my body doesn't look like that, don't think it ever has. I don't want my husband to see them b/c well....it's not me. And I don't want my daughter to see them, because I don't want her to think that is what her body is supposed to look like. Which brings me to another issue. I find it disturbing that it is hard for me to find appropriate clothes for my daughter. There are too many clothes out there that want to make a 9 year old look like a hootchie mama. Ok I'll stop there.

 

sorry....you asked. :P

no, please dont apologize..thats a great subject! I wonder if other moms are having the same problem, and what their xperiences are....especially in other countries...

 

wondering if the inappropriate type clothing pressure is being suffered only in america, or else where too...

 

this does deserve another thread....wonder what barbara in belgium has to go thru with her teen?

 

other zoo moms?

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A co-worker who has an elementary school aged daughter said the little girls are wearing thong underwear.   A recent Katy Perry concert on a morning television show showed the front row full of little girls and their mothers happily singing along to "I kissed a girl."  It seems like children don't get much time in the "age of innocence" anymore.  Must be damned confusing for them.

 

As for modesty, I used to say "if you've got it, flaunt it" but I do not believe that means to dress like someone in the porn industry.  I think an aura of mystery is far more appealing. 

 

 

 

 

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mich40']Modesty, in my opinion, has mostly been abandoned in the world. I'm sure people would laugh at my views, but when it comes to modesty, I'm kinda old school. For instance, I hate walking past a Victoria's Secret in the mall. I hate the posters they put in the windows. Firstly, I don't want to see them b/c my body doesn't look like that, don't think it ever has. I don't want my husband to see them b/c well....it's not me. And I don't want my daughter to see them, because I don't want her to think that is what her body is supposed to look like. Which brings me to another issue. I find it disturbing that it is hard for me to find appropriate clothes for my daughter. There are too many clothes out there that want to make a 9 year old look like a hootchie mama. Ok I'll stop there.

 

sorry....you asked.
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no, please dont apologize..thats a great subject! I wonder if other moms are having the same problem, and what their xperiences are....especially in other countries...

 

wondering if the inappropriate type clothing pressure is being suffered only in america, or else where too...

 

this does deserve another thread....wonder what barbara in belgium has to go thru with her teen?

 

other zoo moms?

Advertizing can often exploit peoples ideals, with the intention of making people feel inadequate, so if they buy stuff or look a certain way, then they belong.

I am inspired by beauty, so advertising and art, when done tastefully,can make me appreciate someones beauty not as a standard of perfection.

I rarely go to the mall, but posters in the windows sounds like too much. You (and your family)should have the option of not to be exposed to 'soft porn'. If it's inside the store, you have the choice.

It's challenging to raise children so they develop a strong sense of self, and for young women (and men).

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A co-worker who has an elementary school aged daughter said the little girls are wearing thong underwear.   A recent Katy Perry concert on a morning television show showed the front row full of little girls and their mothers happily singing along to "I kissed a girl."  It seems like children don't get much time in the "age of innocence" anymore.  Must be damned confusing for them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's awful !

I have to admit, i never heard that song, but i do believe mainstream media isn't quite appropriate for children. It's sad really, especially if it's the norm. 

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birdsong']A co-worker who has an elementary school aged daughter said the little girls are wearing thong underwear.   A recent Katy Perry concert on a morning television show showed the front row full of little girls and their mothers happily singing along to "I kissed a girl."  It seems like children don't get much time in the "age of innocence" anymore.  Must be damned confusing for them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's awful !

I have to admit, i never heard that song, but i do believe mainstream media isn't quite appropriate for children. It's sad really, especially if it's the norm. 

 

I definately agree with you both ohwell.gif

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A co-worker who has an elementary school aged daughter said the little girls are wearing thong underwear.   A recent Katy Perry concert on a morning television show showed the front row full of little girls and their mothers happily singing along to "I kissed a girl."  It seems like children don't get much time in the "age of innocence" anymore.  Must be damned confusing for them.

 

As for modesty, I used to say "if you've got it, flaunt it" but I do not believe that means to dress like someone in the porn industry.  I think an aura of mystery is far more appealing. 

 

 

 

 

agree, birdsong....so much more alluring and sensual to be covered with beautiful fabrics than to be raunchy and trashy with all of your goods pushed out and on display...

 

it is disrespectful to your own self to walk around like that....

 

but I hear so many  high school girls talk like that is something they are so proud of....

 

I mean skin tight pants with no underwear, leaving a camel toe...c'mon, thats not self respect!

 

Wearing that to school with 3 and half inch heels....

 

is it the media telling them that this is what makes a young woman pretty?!

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I have five girls and two boys. The oldest daughter is 24 and the youngest are twins age 12. Yes, it's always been a battle to find appropriate, stylish clothing, but we've talked about it quite a bit and we almost always shop together. My girls are all athletic and curvy, so even my size 7 daughter can barely wear junior tops because she is a 34D. I will not buy tight or low cut clothes, so we shop and shop. She looks adorable when she goes out, most of the time in cute jeans and a hoodie, but she likes to dress up too. All my girls are into the country look right now, so that's nice and they look cute. :)

 

I've worked part time at the local Kohls for 11 years and I am so pleased that this season MANY homecoming dresses are still sitting on the racks because they are way too short! I will also say that it's NUTS that Forever 21's size Large barely fits my size 7 daughter!! CRAZY!!!

 

Sadly, I've seen moms buy their churlish daughters clothing that will not make them look like lovely young women. If the parents keep buying the junk, the manufacturers will keep making it. So I will hold on to the encouraging fact that those homecoming dresses are still sitting there not bought!

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I have five girls and two boys. The oldest daughter is 24 and the youngest are twins age 12. Yes, it's always been a battle to find appropriate, stylish clothing, but we've talked about it quite a bit and we almost always shop together. My girls are all athletic and curvy, so even my size 7 daughter can barely wear junior tops because she is a 34D. I will not buy tight or low cut clothes, so we shop and shop. She looks adorable when she goes out, most of the time in cute jeans and a hoodie, but she likes to dress up too. All my girls are into the country look right now, so that's nice and they look cute. :)

 

I've worked part time at the local Kohls for 11 years and I am so pleased that this season MANY homecoming dresses are still sitting on the racks because they are way too short! I will also say that it's NUTS that Forever 21's size Large barely fits my size 7 daughter!! CRAZY!!!

 

Sadly, I've seen moms buy their churlish daughters clothing that will not make them look like lovely young women. If the parents keep buying the junk, the manufacturers will keep making it. So I will hold on to the encouraging fact that those homecoming dresses are still sitting there not bought!

Oh how lovely to have 7 children, I would love to have children as many as you, the Joy and laughter it would bring in the home, although it is nice to have quiet sometimes too, but I love a big family, I cant have anymore children, as I wouldnt be able to go full term, it would probably kill me lol, and not sure I want to bring more children in this world for the moment, think I'd rather wait for a paradise smile.gif

I admire anyone with children,like you especially, because we have the children stress factor lol, you not the same in mind after having children, in comes worry, worry, worry lol

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to answer spicy's question: most teens over here look pretty modest, but you have the obliged exceptions in every classroom. my lena is not the 'sexy' type, like some of her classmates who dress very, very revealing. its just not who she is, so i don really have to hold her back. she has the 'mini'skirts too, but never too mini, if you know what i mean. she has the 'goods' and she wont be able to hide them (unlike her mom, who's rather modest when it comes to curveswink.gif) and i don think she has to hide them. she's a girl, she has a cleavage in some shirts, thats okay. as long as she's not putting it all on display.

she likes to experiment with make up, i was the same, and just as my mom never limited me, i wont stop her either.
if she wanna dye or cut hair, i would just say: be careful, don damage it too much. cause she has nice, curly but fragile hair.
if i thought she would go over the top with make up , i would tell her tho. cause like other moms i don want her to give the wrong impression to boys/men. but seems like she's got a very healthy judgement herself.
as for myself, i am vain, and i know it. i don mind wearing colorful and get noticed. i used to be shy when i was younger, but i learned to be proud of myself, and make the most of my looks. i like personality, people should just wear what they like but with dignity. 
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Oh how lovely to have 7 children, I would love to have children as many as you, the Joy and laughter it would bring in the home, although it is nice to have quiet sometimes too, but I love a big family, I cant have anymore children, as I wouldnt be able to go full term, it would probably kill me lol, and not sure I want to bring more children in this world for the moment, think I'd rather wait for a paradise smile.gif
I admire anyone with children,like you especially, because we have the children stress factor lol, you not the same in mind after having children, in comes worry, worry, worry lol

Lovely, yes Love, but quiet - rarely! lol!!! 

I hear you about the worries of more precious babes in the world. Although, one never knows what God has planned and who that next baby will be! It's HOPE!  

I LOVE the lyrics to this song and what Bono says -

Every generation gets a chance to change the world
Pity the nation that won't listen to its boys and girls
Cos the sweetest melody is the one we haven't heard

I hear you about the worry. Children surely keep life interesting; you always have the next thing to do. It shows you who you are and helps you realize what's important. The more children I had, the more I realized the beauty of grace and mercy. wink.gif
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