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Need dating advice....

 

Haven't been dating in a long time and feeling a little out of the loop.

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Need dating advice....

 

Haven't been dating in a long time and feeling a little out of the loop.

Are you doing online dating? I don't care for it but some people like it.

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Need dating advice....

 

Haven't been dating in a long time and feeling a little out of the loop.

Are you doing online dating? I don't care for it but some people like it.

 

no...real life!

 

noticing a lot of single guys lately, that didnt see before...

 

they are out and about, shopping, working and riding the trails

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Need dating advice....

 

Haven't been dating in a long time and feeling a little out of the loop.

Are you doing online dating? I don't care for it but some people like it.

 

no...real life!

 

noticing a lot of single guys lately, that didnt see before...

 

they are out and about, shopping, working and riding the trails

 

good !! well mostly by online I mean u meet them online and then meet in person very shortly after !  but i don't like that so glad u are talkin about meeting in person.. LOL sounds like there are lots of guys, not like where I am...cool good luck!!

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Im too scared to talk to them deanna...

 

I tried online once and it was terrible, so I understand where you are coming from with that one.

 

I see them, smile, then run away

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Im too scared to talk to them deanna...

 

I tried online once and it was terrible, so I understand where you are coming from with that one.

 

I see them, smile, then run away

I did it twice. It was pretty bad one time. The most boring date on earth. the other time I made a friend who I still talk to 5 years later & went to  see U2 in Dublin with! as far as dating online I don't like the process at all..caused me anxiety. So my next boyfriend will be someone I already know , or someone I happen to meet 'offline' .. It  is highly unlikely as all the men in NYC seem to be looking for one night stands or they are already taken or they are too obnoxious and up their own butts... :(

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Are you looking for casual dating? Something long term? Food for thought there.

 

I met my husband in an AOL chat room 17 years ago...back when the idea of meeting someone online was still considered odd.

 

All I can really say is good luck and take things slow! Keep us posted!

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Two bits of advice:

1. Be yourself, you will be nervous but don't forget he will be as nervous as you are. You are a great person and even as a bag of nerves your personality will shine through

2. Try to not run away - makes it more difficult to make a connection :)

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I never liked dating, lol, but I suppose it's a necessary part of life, so I think the best bet is to relax (maybe the hardest part) and not try too hard otherwise you risk coming off as too anxious. I think it's okay to be shy and scared to talk to them, in fact it's rather endearing and most of them will feel the same way - if they don't, then they're too smooth and you don't want to bother with them anyway, right?!!

 

Do you run into the same guys while biking, etc.? If so, then as you and he begin to recognize one another, maybe that will help to break the ice a little and give you something to talk about (biking - a common interest) so it won't seem so forced.

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There is only one man I would like to date in my life... But he already dated another girl...

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There is only one Man I would like to date...but He already dated another girl...

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Looking for my soul mate

 

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Need dating advice....

 

Haven't been dating in a long time and feeling a little out of the loop.

Are you doing online dating? I don't care for it but some people like it.

 

For the world dating online I would advise against it as the person can lie and you cant read facial expressions or a person behavior, but thats in the world and thats just my opinion

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so I admit it...

 

I met my soul mate already

 

and he died.

 

I will love him for a thousand years

 

and will love him for a thousand more.

 

is he in the stars...looking down on me?

 

cry every night for him.

 

ten years together.

 

should I give up then?

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Oh no, I'm so very sorry for you, Spicy!  How long has it been?  I think things like this would take a very, very long time to sort through and to deal with and I don't think you ever really get over it, not that you would really even want to get over it. Certainly he can never be replaced. I wouldn't say to give up, but give yourself permission to grieve and heal some more maybe? Sending ((((((((HUGS)))))))) xoxoxoxox  :wub:  :wub:  :wub:  :wub:  :wub:  and prayers your way!!!!!

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So sorry spicy, I never knew, I hope you find strength to carry on and I know he would have wanted you to carry on xx oo

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so I admit it...

 

I met my soul mate already

 

and he died.

 

I will love him for a thousand years

 

and will love him for a thousand more.

 

is he in the stars...looking down on me?

 

cry every night for him.

 

ten years together.

 

should I give up then?

Of course he will be looking down on you and guiding you towards finding new love xxx

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so I admit it...

 

I met my soul mate already

 

and he died.

 

I will love him for a thousand years

 

and will love him for a thousand more.

 

is he in the stars...looking down on me?

 

cry every night for him.

 

ten years together.

 

should I give up then?

Of course he will be looking down on you and guiding you towards finding new love xxx

 

 

Im sure people do move on

 

Just feeling paralyzed with fear but too lonely as well.

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Oh, Spicy.  I'm truly sorry to hear that.   ((((((((((((((Hug)))))))))))))))

That's one of those things that you can't "get over" but you can try to move ahead as you said, but always keeping a place for him in your heart. 

I wish I could say something that would take your loneliness and fear away. 

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Ok, lets get back on track.....

 

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Im too scared to talk to them deanna...

 

I tried online once and it was terrible, so I understand where you are coming from with that one.

 

I see them, smile, then run away

I did it twice. It was pretty bad one time. The most boring date on earth. the other time I made a friend who I still talk to 5 years later & went to  see U2 in Dublin with! as far as dating online I don't like the process at all..caused me anxiety. So my next boyfriend will be someone I already know , or someone I happen to meet 'offline' .. It  is highly unlikely as all the men in NYC seem to be looking for one night stands or they are already taken or they are too obnoxious and up their own butts... :(

 

why do you think they are with their heads up their butts?

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Yep, I'd say that's pretty accurate.  LOL

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Ok, lets get back on track.....

 

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This is absolutely true!!!!!!

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