[quote name='CNF wrote:
Iâ€™ve pretty much lost my faith with church as an institution â€“ doesnâ€™t mean i couldnâ€™t believe in God. Iâ€™m just pretty tired of all the conservativity and discrimination what i still see too much in church â€“ even if some progress has happened during last year (maybe only because of the pressure from outside...?). Somehow I see the church
and God as a two different thing â€“ at least â€œmyâ€ God doesnâ€™t despise or discariminate anyone.
Sorry the rambling
I am a 51 year old gay, living together with my partner for 31 years now in the Netherlands. It was hell coming out at 16 for me in the 70ies; what I find disturbing and scary is that 30 years later appearantly there is nothing changed! At the moment there is a tv show in NL called ' uit de kast' (yes, "out of the closet' ) it's ofcourse about young gays that asked the help from the celeb tv host to be present at their Coming Out with family, friends , work etc. so there would be no way back with their coming out. It is so hard and even painful to watch the struggle that those young teens are having! What are 'we' doing to them?? The whole world has changed in 30 years but not on this matter! Isn't that a bit odd?? The program even stopped after six episodes because- according to the makers- they had misjudged the difficulty of the matter, it was ment to be a joyful show but turned out the opposite..
If you ask me it is all about a lack of information. I'm sure even Cindy Jacobs had gay family members and friends because gays don't come with one out of 10 million but with one out of 10.... So she is hurting even her family members and friends.. Because there are so many gays it is one big mystery to me why it is still so difficult for teens to come out in 2011. Cars exist, trees exist, IPads exist, and , o dear, gays exist. Maybe it is time for parents to take responseability and learn their children beside the basic writing and maths that gays exist. (and that there is the possibility that later the child can be one)
If everyone would have that basic information put in their heads the world would be a much better place for millions of people if you ask me.
I honestly don't think this has anything to do with the church, it's just people putting God's "word" as an excuse.
There will always be people with prejudices of this kind and there will always be teens afraid of coming out because of this, because those people could be their parents, not everyone thinks the same, and I do think that this world has changed in this matter, because if not, DADT would have never been repealed in the first place.
Don't lose hope, it might have taken a long time, but people are starting to see that hatred, and racism of any kind just don't fit this day and age anymore.